If you’re not careful, you’ll lose your sense of power in a relationship. Even though it may not seem so easy, you will be surprised. You have to empower yourself in your relationship, otherwise, it all falls apart. You end up stuck and depressed for however long the relationship lasts. So, to keep this from happening, let’s see if you’re up for the challenge. Specifically, let’s see if you’re up for the thirty day challenge. It’s going to take some work, but it’ll give you nothing but benefits. Keep reading to find out how to empower yourself in a relationship in thirty days.
Being in a relationship. If you want your relationship to work, you’ve got to be willing to roll up your sleeves and put in the work. Otherwise, you run quite a few risks. One of these risks is losing your sense of empowerment. Thankfully, there are ways to overcome this loss of power, as long as you’re up for the challenge.
Be forgiving. If your partner thinks that you’re just going to hold grudges for the rest of your life, then you’re already off to a bad start. So, start forgiving them, no matter how big or little the issues may be. Yes, it’s easier not to, but it shows true strength when you take the high road.
Speak up for yourself. First of all, if you’re dating someone who’s constantly putting you down, then get the hell out of that relationship. It isn’t healthy. In any other case, make sure you’re speaking up for yourself. Don’t be doormat. Otherwise, your S.O. will assume they have the right to walk all over you.
Fake it till you make it. If you’re not entirely confident about how your, well, confidence, then just fake it till you make it, as they say. Wear that confident mask as proudly as you can, and you’ll start to see some major improvements in your relationship. Don’t just coast through life; it’s just going to end up hurting you.
Be OK with not being perfect. If you keep trying to be whatever your idea of perfect is, then you’re just going to end up feeling weak and broken. So, if you want to fix this, you’ve got to get over this idea idea of being perfect. You need to just accept the fact that you’re perfect the way you are.
Boost yourself. In the most inspiring movies, you always get that one scene where the main character gets a pep talk. This pep talk keeps them from giving up, and it reinstill their sense of empowerment. Since you may not get this kind of speech, you’ve got to seek it out in other ways. Motivate yourself whenever you get the chance.
Take charge of date night. This might seem simple enough, but taking control over something as simple as date night says a lot about how empowered you are in a relationship. It shows that you’re not giving up on intimacy and romance, and it stacks you up at the top of the food chain in your relationship — so to speak.
Give your S.O. a chore list. It may not be s*xy, but if you want to stay in charge, then start barking orders. Tell your significant other that he or she needs to pull their weight in the relationship; that way, they’ll never question your abilities to overpower them.
Down on yourself. There’s nothing easier than beating yourself up. It’s like the opposite of m**turbation, but that tells you something about how easy it is to do. To keep yourself empowered, stop talking sh*t about yourself — especially if your S.O. is trying to compliment. Agree with them!
Be convincing. If you always seem as though you’re not really confident in what you’re doing, what you want and even who you are, then how can you expect anyone to respect you? Take charge of what you do or say, and don’t ever back down from your ideals or decisions.
Be dominant during s*x. If you feel as though your partner has more or less decided for the both of you that you’ll be the submissive one, turn the tides. Take over and make them the submissive once for a change. There’s no reason why you ever have to feel weaker in a relationship, especially when you’re being intimate.
Say “no.” It’s not always easy disagreeing with someone, but sometimes it’s the most important thing you can do for yourself. So, that’s what you need to do. When your significant other says or does something you don’t agree with, don’t just give in. Stand up for what you believe in and say “no” if you want to.
Make decisions. Show that you have an opinion when something comes up and give your opinion. Even if you have your doubts about speaking your mind, speak it anyway. Be the one in the relationship who holds the reins. Don’t let your partner determine what you’re going to do.
Don’t confused empowerment with power. The last thing you want to become on your path to empowerment is the villain — which is possible. So, while you don’t need to walk on eggshells on this pursuit for self-worth, don’t become someone that’s completely hateable in the process.
Know when to walk away. If this relationship is offering you absolutely no shot at feeling empowered, then know that you’re not in any way locked into it. You feel that you’ll be better off walking away, even though it won’t feel easy? Then walk away. There’s never any reason to feel stuck with someone.