Want to know whether or not your partner is your ~soul mate~? Well, now you can: An expert has revealed the one thing that will let you know whether your relationship is meant to be — and no, it doesn’t have anything to do with s*x. Want to know what it is?
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… Want to know if your partner is the one? Like, Ryan Gosling-if-you’re-a-bird-I’m-a-bird in “The Notebook” kind of *the one*? Don’t fret: Science has got the answer! Indeed, researchers have come up with the number one ingredient for a strong relationship — and it’s not an interest in the same kind of movies.
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… Expert James Preece, also known as the Dating Guru, revealed that when it comes to relationships, couples that share a great sense of humor reign supreme, Elite Daily reports. In other words, the golden ticket to a special bond — and “The Notebook” kind of love — is kicking back and having some laughs together. Who knew love was so simple, huh?
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… According to James, the most important thing any successful couple must share is an amazing sense of humor. He told FEMAIL: “When this is in alignment, you’ll be able to see the funny side of most situations and generally be more relaxed about what life may throw at you. Any arguments can be diffused and you’ll appreciate each other much more.”
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… James noted that humor detonates a high degree of intelligence in a person — hence why it’s an attractive quality. This is especially true when it comes to women looking for a mate. Of course, this all boils down to evolution. (As most things usually do.)
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… That said, to make things work extra smooth in the relationship, you have to have what’s known as an “affiliative” sense of humor. “This is the the type of humour that boosts happiness, well-being and brings people together,” James told FEMAIL. “It’s all about finding common ground with shared stories and anecdotes.” He added: “When you can both laugh about things together then you’ll naturally bond and be a stronger couple.”
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… James isn’t the only expert to explore why human is important in relationships. In fact, a study from 2015 found that when it comes to romantic attraction, first comes laughter then love. Meaning, that, without a shared sense of humor, love might not be in the cards.
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… Leading the study, Jeffrey Hall, associate professor of communication studies, discovered that when two strangers meet, the more times a man tries to be funny and the more a woman laughs at those attempts, the more likely it is for the woman to be romantically interested. An even better indicator of a connection? If the two are spotted laughing together.
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… Those findings were among some of the discoveries Hall made in his research for a link between humor and intelligence. “For the past decade, research has debated whether women appreciate men’s humor, which is often cited as one of the most valued traits in a partner, because it allows them to suss out the smarts of potential mates,” The University of Kansas’ official site reads. According to Hall, however, finding someone who appreciates your corny pickup lines and terrible jokes is valuable in its own right.
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… “The idea that humor is a signal of intelligence doesn’t give humor its due credit,” Hall said. According to the University of Kansas’ site. “If you meet someone who you can laugh with, it might mean your future relationship is going to be fun and filled with good cheer.” Sweet, right?
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… Beyond studies, there’s a ton of anecdotal evidence out there that having a partner with a sense of humor is not only important, but a must-have in a relationship. Over on Reddit, for instance, tons of users have shared how significant is that their significant other share their sense of humor. We highlight some of their views on the matter in the upcoming slides.
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… User “eizoop” wrote: “100% important. It’s right below ‘shared life goals’ on my list. I joke a lot, but I’m being completely serious right now.” Another user added: “Being funny is a strong part of my identity. A relationship with someone who didn’t find me funny would simply never get off the ground.”
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… “I didn’t think it was that important,” user “crumpledlife” shared. “7 years and a divorce later, I think it’s extremely important. (No, that’s not why the divorce, but sharing a sense of humor definitely would have made the hard times easier.)”
Experts say your relationship is meant to be… User “Cuddlebunz” wrote: “It’s very important to me. A lot of my friends, my past/current SOs, etc have always commented on me being funny. I can’t imagine sharing my life with someone who just didn’t get that side of me.
I have tried dating people who didn’t share a sense of humor with me, and it was sort of a buzzkill. The first time I encountered this, I decided to keep seeing him because he was so great, but ultimately, in the end I ended it because I just couldn’t see myself being happy with someone who didn’t get half of what I was saying.”
Experts say your relationship is meant to be…An anonymous user said: “Pretty damn important. A lot of my humor tends to be pretty dry, and I love being able to engage in banter, and it feels not so great whenever others don’t pick up on it, or don’t understand that I’m only teasing, or just plain aren’t amused by it.I also wouldn’t be willing to date someone with certain types of ‘humor.’”
Experts say your relationship is meant to be…“I am not sure how important it is, but I imagine the way I interact with my SO would be a lot different if we didn’t have the same sense of humor,” one Redditor share. “Neither of us are all that funny and people who make jokes all the time tend to annoy me, but we laugh at the same a**hole things and make the same lame, retired jokes and I like that. It fits.” They added: “So definitely important. Not dealbreaker important but a huge advantage.”